Let’s talk about one part of the wedding day that’s equal parts heartwarming and chaotic: family portraits.
You love your people. You really do. But getting everyone smiling, in one spot, at the right time, without everyone wandering off to the cocktail bar? It’s an Olympic-level coordination event. And as your wedding photographer, I’m basically your team captain.
But here’s the thing — your Family Portraits don’t have to feel like stressful and chaotic. With just a little planning and a lot of grace, this part of your day can be smooth, fun, and meaningful. Promise.
So, from behind the lens (and with my years of wedding-day experience), here’s how to plan for the best family portraits on your wedding day:
1. Make a Shot List — And Keep It Simple
Before the big day, I’ll ask you to share a list of the family groupings that matter most to you. Think: immediate family, grandparents, siblings, and any can’t-miss combinations (like a cousin who’s basically your sibling or your bonus mom and stepdad). My biggest tip? Keep it intentional. A shorter list = more time to celebrate, and fewer chances for people to vanish into the cocktail hour abyss.
2. Tell Everyone They’re In a Photo (Seriously.)
This sounds obvious, but it’s a game-changer. Let your family members know in advance that they’ll be part of the portraits. I can’t tell you how many times we’ve had to hunt down a missing groomsman’s uncle who “just went to grab a beer.” A quick heads-up beforehand helps everyone stay present and ready, and we move through the list way faster.
3. Choose the Right Time in Your Timeline
The best time for Family Portraits? Usually right after the ceremony, when everyone’s already looking their best and still gathered in one place. That said, we’ll always build the timing around your unique day. Sometimes we do a few photos before the ceremony (especially with separate sides of the family), and sometimes we sneak a few extras during cocktail hour if needed. I’ve got your back, timeline and all.
4. Pick a Location With Good Light and Minimal Distractions
As your photographer, I’m always scouting for that sweet spot — the perfect pocket of light, shade (if needed), and background that keeps the focus on your people. Ideally, we’ll choose a location close to your ceremony or reception so we’re not dragging or losing anyone en route. Less stress, more smiles.
5. Don’t Stress About Perfection
Family Portraits are real life, which means someone’s tie might be crooked, the flower girl might refuse to smile, and your dad might throw up bunny ears in at least one shot. That’s okay. The beauty of these portraits isn’t in perfection, it’s in the people who’ve loved you the longest, standing beside you on one of your biggest days. That’s what makes them priceless.
Bonus Tip: Trust Your Photographer (Hey! That’s Me 👋)
I know how to move things along without making it feel rushed. I’ll wrangle the group gently but firmly, keep things light, and make sure you get the portraits you’ll want to frame forever — the ones where everyone’s looking, standing up straight, and yes, maybe even smiling at the same time.
At the end of the day, family portraits aren’t just about documenting who was there. They’re about honoring the people who helped shape your story. The ones who got you to this day and the ones who will keep cheering you on long after the cake is cut.
Let’s make those memories beautiful.
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